Monday, December 31, 2007

CHARACTER WANTS TO KNOW!!


HAPPY NEW YEAR TO MY BLOG FAMILY!!!!

What are you doing to bring in 2008??

Have you made any New Year’s resolutions?? How did you do with last year’s resolutions??

Character Corner wants to know. Let’s talk about it. Let the comments begin
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SIDEBAR: According to Healthminds.org, "the most important point to consider when deciding on your resolutions is to decide if you are truly willing to make the change in your life."

The following are tips to help you make and keep your resolutions for the coming year:

1. Try again. Everyone has made, and broken past resolutions, that does not mean that you won’t succeed this time. Start with a positive approach, including thinking about what has disrupted your good intentions in the past. Don’t discourage yourself with a negative outlook.

2. Don’t make too many resolutions. Trying to eat better, exercise more, quit smoking, and reduce stress is too much to tackle at once. Pick a realistic, attainable goal with a reasonable time frame.

3. Choose your own resolution. Make sure this is something that you want to accomplish for yourself and not for friends or family. When you attain the goal they will benefit from your success as well.

4. Make a plan and write it down. Plan what you’d like to accomplish in three or six months. Achieving small goals over time gives you a sense of accomplishment and motivation to keep going. Writing your goals down is a good way to keep track of your progress.

5. Involve friends and family. They can support your efforts, and can motivate you to keep going. Setting a personal goal is not a “promise” which can never be broken. Don’t paint yourself into a corner by overstating what can be a realistic change you plan to make.

6. Forgive yourself. If you get off track, don’t think that you failed. Review your plan and make adjustments.

7. Congratulate yourself. Reward yourself when your intermediate goals or resolutions are met.

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Sunday, December 30, 2007

SIDERBAR ACRONYMS FOR FAITH AND FEAR

I ran across some very powerful acronyms for faith and fear:

FAITH: Fully Allow It To Happen

FEAR: Forget Everything And Run

"When we live in that minute space where fear and faith collide, we allow trust to be born." by Judy Sauer

SIDEBAR PRAYER FOR TODAY


Prayer: Father God, I offer my heart to you today. Please prune my heart so that it can continue to bear good fruit.

SIDEBAR SPOTLIGHT ON PROFESSOR TRACEY'S NEW BLOG




My blog sista, Professor Tracey, has created a new blog entitled, “Aunt Jemima’s Revenge.”

Professor Tracey is the extremely intelligent and passionate Professor that I had the honor of meeting through the What About Our Daughters? blog, where she is also a Contributor. She is a regular participant on the Black Women’s Roundtable podcast, where her frank, witty and passionate perspective infuses "heat" into any topic of discussion.

Let’s support the newest blogger to the blogging helm.

Saturday, December 29, 2007

I MISS WHITE CASTLE!!!


Before I embark on making any New Year’s resolutions, I have a confession to make. I miss White Castle. (Krystal burgers are horrible imitations of White Castle burgers)

I miss driving to Clifton, NJ and placing my order for two (okay, three) double cheeseburgers with an order of onion rings and of course, a large diet coke. LOL. I can taste them right now as I type.

So when I saw the White Castle logo on another blog, I had to swipe it. It reminded me of home and my fetish for White Castle.

I know this post is so shallow, but I wish I had at least one White Castle cheeseburger right about now. LOL.

Sidebar: Those frozen White Castle burgers served in the supermarkets will never take the place of actually purchase freshly cooked burgers.

Friday, December 28, 2007

KULIBAH!!! KULIBAH!!! LET THEM GO, UP ON HIGH, LET THEM GO!!


You must listen to last night’s Black Women’s Roundtable podcast. It ended on such a powerful note. Shecodes, creator of Black Women Vote blog, recited an African folklore (West Indies proverb) and ended her speech with the following words: “Kulibah! Kulibah!”

The word “Kulibah” means, “Let them go, up on high, let them go!”

With her recital of this liberating proverb, Shecodes eloquently reminded me that I have wings that have not been used for quite sometime. It is now time to spread my wings and fly.

The following are excerpts taken from a sermon by Mel Williams entitled, “Roots and Wings,” which was taken from Isaiah 40:31 and contains the African folklore that was so powerfully recited by Shecodes:


There’s an old folk song that says, “Jesus, he did not doubt his gifts, though he knew that he had not long to live. He took care of the business of teaching us how to fly. Then he bowed his head and laid down to die.”

Jesus “took care of the business of teaching us how to fly,” teaching us how “to mount up with wings like eagles.” It’s figurative speech, but it tells us of God’s desire that once we are rooted in God’s love and grace, then we are ready to take off. We’re ready to “take the leap,” to rise and head over the treetops to see the wider vistas of possibility.

Jesus took care of the business of teaching us how to fly. Let me tell you a story about learning to fly—or re-learning how to fly. It’s a story that comes from African folklore. It’s a story that speaks of faith, flying, and resurrection. It’s a story of roots and wings.

There was a time when all Africans could fly. But somehow, through lack of trust in the Great Spirit and through human shortcomings, we lost the capacity to fly.

We forgot how to fly.

There was a plantation on John’s Island where there was a cruel master and a slave driver who worked the people mercilessly. He worked them so hard that the people would die. Then, the master would just go out and buy new slaves to replace the ones who had died.

One day the master brought in some brand new slaves, and put them to work in the cotton field. The slave driver worked them with unsparing harshness—men, women and children—from sunrise to sunset, through the scorching heat of midsummer sun, not even allowing the slaves to rest in the nearby shade. They were not even allowed to stop and get a drink of water.

Through the hardest hours, the master’s slave driver pushed them along without a moment’s stop for breath, and they all grew weak from the heat and thirst, and the children whimpered and cried.

There was among them a young woman who had just had her first baby a few days before. Though she wasn’t recovered from bearing the baby, she was forced out into the field, her baby on her hip, and made to work as hard as all the rest.

The baby began to cry. She spoke to quiet the child. But the driver yelled, “You get back to work!” She took the baby and gave the baby her breast so that the baby would be quiet, and then she went back to work. But being so weak from having the baby, she became sick with the heat, and she slipped and fell. The driver came at her, slashed at her with his whip, and kicked her till she rose and staggered on. She turned and spoke to an old man near her. He was the tallest and strongest of all the people in the field. He replied, but the slave driver could not understand what they said.

“Get back to work!” he yelled. She returned to work.

But, in a little while, she fell again. Again, the driver lashed her with the whip till she got to her feet. Again, she spoke to the old man. Turning to him, she said, “Father, is it time yet?” And he said, “No, not yet, my daughter. Not yet.” So, she went on working.

Again she stumbled and fell. Again the slave driver came at her with the whip. She got up and said, “Father, is it time yet?” And he said, “Yes, my daughter. Now it is time. Go.” And he stretched out his arms and he cried, “Kulibah!”

At the sound of the word, the young woman with her baby at her side leaped up into the air and flew off in the sky.

The slave driver was furious, and he ran after her with his whip, but she was up above his head, flying over the field and woods.

Then the driver, to make up for the loss of the woman, worked the people harder than ever before. Soon a man fell in the heat. The driver took his whip and lashed at the man’s feet. As he got up, the old man again stretched out his arms, and called out “Kulibah! Kulibah!”

And the slave turned and laughed at the driver, and then leaped into the air, like a sea gull, and flew away.

Then the master yelled to his slave driver. “Beat that old devil. He’s the one that’s doing this!” And they came at him with clubs and whips to kill the one who had taught them to fly.

But the old man laughed, and he looked at the blacks in the field. He stretched out his arms and cried out “Kulibah! Kulibah!”

And as he spoke to them, they all remembered what they had forgotten.

And then, all the workers in the field, old and new, stood up together, and the old man stretched out his arms, and they all leaped up into the air with a great shout: “Kulibah!” And in a moment, they were gone, like a flock of crows, over the field, over the fence, over the top of the world, the men clapping their hands, the women singing, the children laughing. And they were not afraid anymore. And behind them flew the old man.

The word “Kulibah” means, “Let them go, up on high, let them go!”

God loves each one of us with unconditional love. God has loved us and set us free—to struggle against every obstacle, every injustice. We have been given the roots of faith. And by the power of the resurrection, Jesus “took care of the business of teaching us how to fly.”

In this time of transition, “they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength.” With God’s love surrounding us, with the power of the resurrection infusing us, let us all rise up with wings like eagles. Kulibah! Kulibah!

Amen.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

BLACK WOMEN'S ROUNDTABLE 2007


Tonight will be the last Black Women's Roundtable for 2007. Join in the conversation and talk about your favorite blog or podcast moments of 2007. Also, let's show our appreciation for the Black Women's Roundtable creator and host, Gina - the Warrior Princess, who is also the creator of the highly influential What About Our Daughters? blog.

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

LET LIFE'S RICHNESS FLOW BY Ralph Marston


Accomplishment comes when you allow it. Fulfillment comes when you allow it.

Worry, resentment, anger, envy and fear all serve to prevent your best possibilities from being realized. The more you learn to let go of the negative influences, the more easily and naturally will the richness of life flow through you.

How many worthwhile and fulfilling experiences have you missed because you were worried about what others might think? How many precious days have you wasted by being filled with resentment or fear?

You have so many beautiful places to go. There are so many valuable and fulfilling things you can do.

Begin today to more faithfully follow those bright and shining purposes that are deep within you. Let the negative, limiting thoughts and perceptions fall quietly and uneventfully away from you as quickly as they come.

Open your spirit, and allow your most beautiful possibilities to come to life. Remember who you truly are, and let life's richness flow.

Monday, December 24, 2007

SIDEBAR BLOG SPOTLIGHT ON SHECODES' NEW BLOG




The Revolution continues on the newly created blog entitled, Black Women Vote. This new blog was created by my blog Sista, Shecodes. The following excerpts were taken from the initial blog post which set forth the purpose behind the creation of this new blog:
In the year 2007, we criticized, critiqued, commiserated, and cried about about the hideous treatment of black women and girls. We have cat-called the crunk gangsta (c)rappers, and we have also called congressmen out about their counterfeit concern about black women's rights.

We have castigated (and some people claim that we 'castrated') activists who are content to ignore crimes committed against us. We even held a few black women in contempt who colluded against our collective welfare for their own selfish gain.

But what we have not yet done... is COLLABORATED with each other.

This new blog, entitled 'Black Women Vote!' is a war cry to all Black women who are fed up, pissed off, and mad as heck about the present conditions of Black womanhood in America, and are ready to do something about it. Make no mistake... we're about to change some stuff up in this piece! We have the social, economic, political tools to compel America to become more hospitable for ourselves, and for our daughters.

In the year 2008, let us all resolve to look deeper into the issues that affect us the most -- and to discuss practical, actionable plans to change the tide in our favor
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Let's support Shecodes by visiting her blog today.

BISHOP WEEKS' INDICTMENT HAS BEEN DEAD DOCKETED




According to youtube bloggers DeenaJones1 and NotYourTypicalNegro, the indictment against Bishop Thomas Weeks has been placed on the dead docket.

"Dead-docketing has been characterized as a procedural device by which 'the prosecution is postponed indefinitely but may be reinstated at any time at the pleasure of the court. ‘Placing a case upon the dead docket certainly constitutes neither a dismissal nor a termination of the prosecution in the accused's favor. A case is still pending which can be called for trial at the judge's pleasure, or upon which the accused can make a demand for trial.'" Source

On October 29, 2007, a Fulton County Judge granted a motion by the Fulton County Assistant Deputy Attorney to place the indictment on the dead docket and release the surety of the bail bond. Click here to see a copy of the stamped indictment.

While dead docketing the case does not constitute a dismissal of the indictment against Bishop Thomas Weeks, it does appear that the Prosecution is not confident that they can secure a conviction in this case at this present time.

Sidebar: I am surprised that the mainstream media outlets have not reported on this latest development. Moreover, I am surprised that Bishop Weeks' camp did not leak this information to the media.

Sunday, December 23, 2007

What is the "greatness" or the greater work that he called us to?? by Shecodes


In my post entitled, SIDEBAR SPA TREATMENT: SERENITY PRAYER by Reinhold Niebuhr, Shecodes gave several great comments that I want to share with all of you. The following is her response to my question regarding what are the "greater works" that Jesus mentioned in John 14:12 when he said, "Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father."


Shecodes writes,

The greater work is for earth to become a mirrored, physical representation of the Kingdom of God in heaven. As Jesus taught us to pray: "Thy kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven". That happens when we go through the transformative process called the 'renewal of the mind' -- for example[.]

"Be not conformed to the image of this world, but be ye transformed by the renewal of your mind".

Individuals who have achieved the mind of Christ will be imbued with the power of God on earth, and will be able to perform the miracles of Christ. The transformation is the purpose of the Christian journey on earth.

I'll also add that the BIGGEST LIE that the devil has taught Christians is that the world belongs to him. We see earth something that is supposed to be bad, evil and wicked, a holding place designed for us to temporarily suffer.

But my Bible says that "The earth is the LORD'S, and the fullness thereof... the world, and they that dwell therein."

Our job is to continue the restorative process of earth that Jesus started, until Christ comes again. We are supposed to battle evil. We are supposed to do our part as stewards of earth that increase the world's spiritual value (think of the parable of the talents). Those are the greater things.

Most importantly, the reason why so many people (including non Christians) are so despondent and want to 'lower expectations', is because Christians have not been doing their job.

"If MY people, who are called by MY name, would humble themselves and pray, and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways... then I will hear from heaven, forgive their sins, and heal their land."

God didn't say if non-Christians turned from their wicked ways... he said "MY people who are called by my name" -- meaning CHRISTIANS -- would turn from their evil ways, the Lord would heal the earth.

We are supposed to be the salt of the earth, and the light of the earth. THAT is the greater work that we are called to....

Many Christians misinterpret the prophecies in John's Revelation... they think that it means that it's alright to sit idly by and to allow the world to deteriorate into desperate evil and wickedness.

They can't be more wrong. It's precisely this 'false contentment with the state of things' (spiritual fatalism) that Jesus spoke about in the parable of the talents.

It is the equivalent of being that servant who buries his talent, who 'contents himself' with what he has been given and won't create more valuable assets for his master.

Therefore, we will have the horrors in Revelation because of the neglect of many Christians to honor our responsibility to be stewards over the earth.

And I'm about to give some scary food for thought here.

That servant is a very common type of Christian. No doubt. Most idle Christians think that the worst thing that will happen to them is that their reward will be given to the other servants who produced more of the talents.

But what else does Jesus say will happen to that particular SERVANT (read:"Christian") who fails to do the work of Christ?

"And the master ordered the servant to be thrown outside into the darkness where there is "weeping and gnashing of teeth."

Remember, not everyone who says "Lord, Lord" will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. We are NOT saved by works, but the failure to continue the work of Christ will surely condemn us to an eternity of "weeping and gnashing of teeth".

And that particular sermon is not being taught in many churches. I'm not trying to scare anyone, but we all need to be clear that being preserving and restoring 'salt' and 'light' to the world are not optional tasks in God's eyes.

Friday, December 21, 2007

THE CHRISTMAS SONG BY NAT KING COLE



I love me some Nat King Cole. What a voice!!!! Enjoy!!

SIDEBAR SPA TREATMENT: SERENITY PRAYER by Reinhold Niebuhr


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Sidebar Question: Do we expect too much from this life?? Does unreasonable expectations create discontentment within our souls?? Have unreasonable expectations blinded us from seeing THE blessings that are available this very minute?

SIDEBAR MEDITATION: PSLAMS 23


The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.


SIDEBAR: As I awakened this morning, my mind was meditating on Psalms 23. In the first sentence, the Psalmist David declared that the Lord is his shepherd. The Lord is his source. When our Heavenly Father is our source and not a resource, we will not want. Our needs are met according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus (His Word).

He restores our souls and provides rest for our minds. His ways are still and calming.

Surrendering your life to God is the most powerful and liberating thing you can do. The world changes, but God does not. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. There is stability in trusting in him, and not our own understanding.

As we hurry to purchase and receive gifts during the holiday, let us not forget the most precious gift of all. That is, our personal relationship with God that is available to each and every one of us through Jesus Christ. We are no longer held captive by our past mistakes. Through Christ, all sins have been forgiven. We can now live in perfect fellowship with our Heavenly Father.

Have you really surrendered your life to God??? Who is really your shepherd or source???

Thursday, December 20, 2007

SIDEBAR HUMOR: BABY GIVES EVIL EYE



I saw this video on Sandrarose.com and could not resist posting the video. I love babies. I just do not want anymore. LOL. This video is so cute. Enjoy.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Positive experience by Ralph Marston


The best response to a negative experience is to create a positive experience. Instead of fighting against life's misfortunes, transform them into useful and worthwhile value.

When things go wrong, you have a choice. You can wallow in self pity or you can seize the opportunity for self improvement. In every disappointment there is the seed of fulfillment. In every weakness there is the seed of strength.

Problems and difficulties provide reliable pathways to achievement. There is value to be gained from every experience when you choose to see that value and to bring it about.

You never have to be the victim of random circumstance, or of any other circumstance for that matter. For instead of choosing to be the victim, you can always choose to make a positive difference.

Life is often unfair, and comes to you in ups and downs, but that doesn't really matter. For you are free to make of it whatever you choose.

Prayer: Thoughts are powerful, so pay close attention to what you think about. Lord, help me to think thoughts of love, peace and abundance so that this becomes my experience.

SIDEBAR SMILE ZONE



I declare today as a smile zone blog day.

Have you heard any good (clean) jokes lately??

What are some of the things that make you smile?

I believe that there is real power in both smiling and laughter. A good laugh is great for our overall emotional health.

Today, let’s set aside the worries and cares of this world and take a moment to smile and laugh.

My prayer today: “Father God, please open our minds, hearts and souls so that we can have a good-deep-healing laugh. In addition, please restore the joy of living within each and every person that is currently experiencing extreme disappointment with either themselves or life in general. In Jesus’ name and authority, I pray. Amen.”

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

SIDEBAR QUESTION: DO YOU REALLY BELIEVE?



Do you have enough faith to believe that what things soever you desire, when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you shall have them?

Monday, December 17, 2007

SIDEBAR QUESTION OF THE DAY

If you are not happy with what you have, how will you be happy with what you want to have?

Lord, may I appreciate the good things in my life and refuse to feel sorry for myself or compare myself to others.



Sidebar: I received this devotion in an email today. I just had to share it. What a powerful question and prayer!!!

SIDEBAR ENCOURAGEMENT


TODAY, JUST BELIEVE!! YOUR ARE ABLE TO ACHIEVE THE IMPOSSIBLE WITH PATIENCE AND PERSISTENCE. YOU CAN AND WILL MAKE IT. GOD HAS NOT FORGOTTEN ABOUT YOU.

Sunday, December 16, 2007

SIDEBAR SERMON: FAITH AND OBEDIENCE



In Luke 6: 46 - 49: Jesus said,

6:46: And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?

6:47: Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like:

6:48: He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.

6:49: But he that heareth, and doeth not, is like a man that without a foundation built an house upon the earth; against which the stream did beat vehemently, and immediately it fell; and the ruin of that house was great.


Sidebar: Going through personal challenges can help one to realize the importance of both faith and obedience.

It is just not enough to have faith in God. We must obey or do what He tells us to do.

It is not popular to preach about wages of sin. It is even hard to deal with sin in our own personal lives. But it must be addressed.

Disobedience to scripture and sound principles of wisdom can destroy your life and the people around you. Selah.

Today, search your own heart and ask our Heavenly Father to please reveal any sins that is keeping you from fully entering and receiving the Kingdom of God. Be willing and ready to confess them and release them from your life by the power of the Holy Spirit.

I pray that our faith will not fail us as we struggle through rough times.

Remember God loves us and wants us to live holy lives. Obedience is always better than destruction.

Father God, please help us to receive your cleansing of unrighteousness from our lives so that destruction does not come near our dwelling place and keep us from evil in the name of Jesus I pray.


2 Chronicles 7: 14: "If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."

Thursday, December 13, 2007

BISHOP WEEKS RECALLS BOOK AND APOLOGIZES TO HIS WIFE

UPDATE: THE VIDEO IS NO LONGER AVAILABLE. DON'T TELL ME THAT HE HAS RECALLED THE VIDEO ALONG WITH THE BOOK!!! THIS IS REALLY A HOT CHURCH MESS!!!

UPDATE 2: THANKS TO WHAT ABOUT OUR DAUGHTERS FOR POSTING THE YOUTUBE ON THE WAOD BLOG. THE APOLOGY VIDEO IS STILL AVAILABLE ON YOUTUBE.


SIDEBAR MEDITATION



I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. (PSALMS 121:1)

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Bishop Thomas Weeks on the Tom Joyner Morning Show

Did you know that Bishop Weeks has written a new book entitled, WHAT LOVE TAUGHT ME? Click here for the website where you can purchase the book.

Bishop Weeks On the Tom Joyner Morning Show


SIDEBAR: THIS STORY IS GETTING WORST BY THE MINUTE.

JUANITA BYNUM'S V-103 INTERVIEW


Thanks to my blog sista, Mes Deux Cents, I learned that Juanita Bynum was interviewed by Porsche Foxx of V-103’s The Porsche Foxx Show on yesterday.

LISTEN:

Juanita Bynum’s V-103 interview – Part 1
Juanita Bynum’s V-103 interview – Part 2

***Thanks to Sandrarose.com for the links to the interview.

SIDEBAR MEDITATION



The things which are impossible with men are possible with God. Luke 18:27.

NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE By: Ellen G. White


Prayer is the answer to every problem in life.

It puts us in tune with divine wisdom,
Which knows how to adjust everything perfectly.

Too often we do not pray in certain situations
Because from our standpoint the outlook is hopeless.

But nothing is impossible with God.

Nothing is so entangled that it cannot be remedied;

No human relationship is too strained for God
To bring about human reconciliation and understanding;

No habit so deep-rooted that it cannot be overcome;

No one is so weak that he cannot be strong.

No one is so ill that he cannot be healed.

No mind is so dull that it cannot be made brilliant.

Whatever we need if we trust God, He will supply it.

If anything is causing worry or anxiety,
Let us stop rehearsing the difficulty
And trust God for healing, love, and power.

Into the experience of all there comes times of
Keen disappointment and utter discouragement--
Days when sorrow is the portion
And it is hard to believe that God is still the
Benefactor of His earth born children;
Days when troubles harass the soul,
Till death seems preferable to life.

It is then that many lose their hold on God
And are brought into the slavery
Of doubt, the bondage of unbelief.

Could we at such times discern with spiritual insight
The meaning of God's providences,
We should see angels seeking to save us from ourselves,
striving to plant our feet upon a foundation
More firm than the everlasting hills,
And new faith would spring into being.

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

EXCERPTS FROM PART 2 OF JUANITA BYNUMS' ESSENCE INTERVIEW



Part 2 of Juanita Bynum’s interview is in the January 2008 issue of Essence Magazine. According to Essence.com, “BYNUM opens up about her eagerly-anticipated new ministry that tackles domestic violence in the Black community, responds to her critics and explains why one day she’ll be ready to love again. “ The following are excerpts from her interview:

ON HER NEW MISSION: “I don’t want to backtrack. What I’m willing to bring to the table at this point is what I’m walking through right now. I believe that I can bring it and impart it into the hearts of women with conviction.”

ON HER CRITICS: “People hating on me now are always going to hate. Half the people saying stuff, if I walked up to them in a beauty shop or in a store, would never say these things to my face. When I reflect on what God is still doing [in my life], I don’t have time to focus on people who don’t like me.”

ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH: “I have preached in the church for years…I was heartbroken to know that there were men of God who were in positions of ministry [who remain silent], and I refused to believe that nobody was hearing from God. I am a woman in the kingdom, and this happened to me, and I have absolutely no reason to lie about what happened to me.”

ON KEEPING THE FAITH: “God put me on this path, and this is what I feel is strengthening me. Not my prayers right now but the prayers that I’ve cried out to God when there was no problem. And just asking God to strengthen me and to sustain me, caused me to be focused. I think had I not done that out of obedience to him I probably would be in a real ugly state right now.”

ON FINDING LOVE AGAIN: "We make statements like, ‘I’ll never get married again.’ But that’s not my focus. I can’t start thinking connected right now. I have to just keep thinking singular right now, because if I don’t bring the singular part in every area, to more levels of growth, to the fullest capacity, then I still won’t have anything to connect with anybody.”

Read part two of our entire interview with Juanita Bynum in the January issue of ESSENCE now on sale.

SPA TREATS: WORDS OF COMFORT FROM CAROLE JOY



I am blessed to find incredible joy in very simple things.

I will remember that listening in silence is often more comforting and appreciated than offering words of advice.

I will speak gently, remembering that simply being kind is much more than always being right
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Monday, December 10, 2007

LEARNING TO PAY CLOSER ATTENTION TO THE WARNING SIGNS IN OUR LIVES



Today, Mike Vick was sentenced to 23 months in federal prison for his role in the dog fighting conspiracy that involved gambling and killing of pit bulls.

In many people’s eyes, Vick had it all. He was given the opportunity to live his dreams of playing professional football and received a nice salary for it. He was rich and famous. And he was a very talented and exciting Quarterback.

Many are perplexed as to why he would destroy his career over something as bizarre as dog fighting.

What is the lesson???

Perhaps learn to value what you bring to the table. Learn to surround yourself with people who will help you, not hurt you. Make sure that your associations are going in a positive direction.

Let’s pray that we all learn to watch and take heed to the warning signs within our own lives before they force us and our families to pay a major price. Selah.

SIDEBAR INSPIRATIONAL SPOTLIGHT IS ON SHON GABLES


Sister 2 Sister Magazine featured an article by Janelle Harris on “Black Enterprise Business Report” host Shon Gables. Her story is inspiring.

According to the Sister 2 Sister article, Shon’s success is the fruit of turning to God in the mist of some very real and tough times. “College-kid” rebellion caused her to lose her full scholarship to the University of Oklahoma. Her mother gave her two alternatives: join the military or live on the streets. Shon chose the military. Shon credits her experience as an Army reservist for instilling the discipline that she so desperately needed.

During college, she fell in love with her first husband, Color Me Badd founding member and lead singer Bryan Adams, who ultimately left Shon and their child for a stripper. The breakup caused Shon’s weight to balloon to 200 pounds. She eventually had to apply for public assistance. At the age of 25, Shon found herself sleeping on the floor for one year in a house with no heat. It was at this point that Shon decided “to submit [her] life to God, repent, start over and pursue [her] true passion: [she] always wanted to be a journalist.”

Shon has since remarried and is the mother of Ryan, 12, and Peter, 8 months. Oh yeah, Shon can now wear a size 6.

You go, Girl. Thanks for being such an inspiration!!!!

Start With Joy by Ralph Marston


What you are longing [for] is already here. How could you know it so intimately if it was not a part of you even now?

What separates you from your dream? It is nothing more than your resistance to accepting it [and] living it.

What you long for is not to be found in some object or location or set of circumstances. It is within you.

Go ahead and let it out. Go ahead and let it be.

No amount of misfortune or disappointment can tarnish the values you hold most dearly. Step gracefully and confidently forward knowing that you and your dreams are always intact, no matter which way the world may go.

Live the joy that is in what you long for. It is real, it is here, and it is you.

Sunday, December 09, 2007

SIDEBAR ENCOURAGEMENT


JEREMIAH 29: 11 -13:

29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
29:12: Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
29:13: And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.


Matthew 7:7 – 11: Jesus taught the following:

7:7: Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
7:8: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
7:9: Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?
7:10: Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?
711 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?

"For I Know" by Martha Munizzi

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

MEGA RICH TELLS DON TO STOP FRONTIN'

It seems that my blog brotha, Don, had to get some stuff off his chest.

Don did a likes/dislikes post where he stated that he likes magnum XL condoms.

In response, Mega Rich did a post entitled, "No Future in Frontin'."

I think it was comment #2 that set Don off. LOL. The comment reads as follows,

"Just because you are "blessed and highly favored" in the genitalia department, doesn't mean people are going to be knocking your door down, so stop advertising. At best you will end up with someone who wants a good ride out of you and then they'll dip when someone with more substance comes."

The post was very interesting and made some very good points about relationships. Check it out.

My favorite is point 13 which states, "Being selfish works against the whole premise of wanting to be in a relationship. The mere fact of it being a relationship requires that you give of yourself too." Selah.


PUT THAT WOMAN FIRST - JAHEIM

IT IS IMPORTANT TO STUDY THE BIBLE IF YOU ARE A "CHRISTIAN"

2 Timothy 2:15, 16 states, "Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness."

Ecclesiastes 5:3 states in part, "....a fool's voice is known by multitude of words."

Selah.


SHERRI SHEPHERD NEEDS A BIBLE STUDY

SUCCESS WITHIN YOU - author unknown


The success you seek is a reality that already exists within you. Your actions are the way you express that reality and bring it to your outer world.

Achievement is not a matter of becoming successful. It is a matter of fully demonstrating the success that is already within you.

Success is not something that you must strive to obtain or acquire. Instead, it is a beautiful and unique gift that you are able to give to your world.

Every success, every achievement comes from within. Nothing can separate you from the success you desire because it is already a part of you.

When the success that is within you drives your actions, that success will surely and faithfully flow out from you. Live the success that is yours, and that success will surround you.

Choose in each moment to fully and lovingly share the success that is within you. The expression of that success will add great value and beauty to your world.

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SIDEBAR: STOP LIVING YOUR LIFE FROM A DEFICIT. YOU ARE ALREADY SUCCESSFUL. NOW IS THE TIME TO EXPRESS IT. SELAH.

PRAYER: FATHER GOD, HELP ME TO EXPRESS FULLY THE SUCCESS THAT YOU HAVE ALREADY PLACED WITHIN ME.

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

SIDEBAR QUESTION OF THE DAY


Is success something you strive to obtain/acquire, or is it something you just express??

FREEDOM - author unknown



You can notice your thoughts, use them, learn from them, and find value in them. Yet you do not have to let them hold you back.

You can experience your feelings, explore their depths and find richness in them. Yet you do not have to let them stop you in any way.

You are free to act, free to think, free to love, free to move in the direction of whatever you choose. Nothing outside of you or inside of you can take that freedom away unless you let it.

When you find yourself building limitations in your mind, know that you have the power and ability to allow those limitations to dissolve completely away. When you feel yourself creating resistance, understand that you can just as easily release that resistance.

You are free at any time to take something toward which you've felt negative and turn it into a positive influence in your life. You are free to change, to grow, to learn and to create.

When you feel stuck, let that feeling be, and then you can just as easily let it go. Whatever happens, keep reminding yourself that freedom is always an option, real and available to you.

DAILY PRAYER


Be yourself in all that you do and you will soon learn that you are very special.

Lord, help me find the peace that You have already placed within my soul.

THE MIRACLE THAT IS NOW!! by Ralph Marston


There is a miracle in every moment. Look closely, and lovingly, and you will clearly see it.

There is an innate and elegant beauty in even the most ordinary of things. Learn to love that beauty, and to let it be, and your eyes will be opened to wondrous possibilities. There always and everywhere is a quiet yet unyielding peace, upon which rests all that is. The more often you reach in and touch this peace the more fully you experience its power.

Anything that is negative, deceptive or destructive will eventually consume and obliterate itself. What is authentic, peaceful and creative will continue to grow more pervasive.

When you need nothing other than to simply be, you have every beautiful and wonderful and miraculous thing there is. Life's richness is never more than a single thought away.

Breathe in deeply the beauty, the wonder, the miracle that is now. Know the joy that cannot ever fade.

Monday, December 03, 2007

ATTORNEYMOM IS A PANELIST ON NPR BLOGGERS' ROUNDTABLE: IMUS RETURNS


Today, I appeared as a panelist on a NPR Bloggers' Roundtable on News & Notes with Farai Chideya. The topics of discussion were radio shock jock Don Imus return to radio and NBC News' recent series on black women. Click here for link to listen to the show.

The NPR panel also included Tyrone Rock of Tyrone Takes on America and Nashieqa Washington of Your Black Friend.

Thanks to JeneƩ Darden, Associate Producer of NPR News and Notes, for inviting me to participate as panelist

Sidebar: Oh my gosh, I cannot believe that I actually talked with the brilliant Farai Chideya.

SIDEBAR BLOG SPOTLIGHT SHINES ON THE TRADITION OF EXCELLENCE BLOG


In the spirit of continue to celebrate our excellence, I would like to introduce a new blog entitled, “Tradition of Excellence.”

This new blog recognizes that it is not all doom and gloom for people of the darker hue. Thus, the blog will chronicle African-American achievers of both past and present. The blog owner writes:

African-Americans are leaders, revolutionaries, and achievers today. Our achievements are not solely of the past. Our success did not die with Dr. King Jr., Mr. Dubois, and Ms. Tubman to name a few. African-Americans have contributed to enlightening and improving not only the United States but the world. Sadly many African-Americans, children and adults alike, are unaware of our successes of the past and even more, the present. We must be careful of letting others define not only our success but our history, values, character and legacies. Tradition of Excellence’s mission is to highlight the distinction and many achievements of African-Americans.

Please add this to your positive blog roll.

Thanks to Symphony for forwarding me this information.

COLLEGE ENROLLMENT FOR BLACK MALES INCREASES IN GEORGIA'S UNIVERSITIES AND COLLEGES


Macon.com is reporting that black male college enrollment has increased 24.5 percent since 2002 thanks to the University System of Georgia African American Male Initiative. The initiative provides a multi-pronged approach, which includes tutoring, mentoring, leadership development and college visitation, to boost the numbers of black men attending the state’s colleges and universities. (Source)

When the initiative began in 2002, only three programs statewide addressed the issue of black male college enrollment. According the Initiative Project Director Arlethia Perry-Johnson, there are now 20 at 16 different University System of Georgia institutions. The state has invested more than $420,000 in the program.

Organizers plan to broaden and replicate the efforts that have been successful.

Click here to visit the official website for the African American Male Initiative.

BLESS THE LORD AT ALL TIMES - THROUGH YOUR PAIN AND YOUR TEARS!!!!

Shari Addision testifies


I watched a re-broadcast of a BET Sunday Best episode and Shari Addison had me shouting last night. I needed this shout.

I will bless the Lord at all times. No matter what it looks or feels like right now God is still worthy to be praised. Bless Him!!! Bless Him!!!!!


Shari Addison sings

JENA 6 TEEN TO ENTER A PLEA


According to the Associated Press, Mychal Bell, one of the Jena 6 teens, could enter the plea as early Monday, said attorney Carol Powell Lexing. He has been charged with aggravated second-degree battery and conspiracy. The plea deal would allow Bell to plead guilty to a misdemeanor and avoid a second trial.

"We were prepared to go forward with the trial, but you have to do what's best for the client," Lexing said.

Sidebar: I hope that we (both blacks and whites) learn something from the Jena 6 case. We must all work together to eradicate racism from the judicial system and within law enforcement.

More importantly, I hope that Mychal Bell will decide to stay on the right path and refuse to go back to prision under any circumstances.

Sunday, December 02, 2007

Psalm 34

A Psalm of David, when he changed his behaviour before Abimelech; who drove him away, and he departed.


34:1 I will bless the LORD at all times: his praise shall continually be in my mouth.
34:2 My soul shall make her boast in the LORD: the humble shall hear thereof, and be glad.
34:3 O magnify the LORD with me, and let us exalt his name together.
34:4 I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.
34:5 They looked unto him, and were lightened: and their faces were not ashamed.
34:6 This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles.
34:7 The angel of the LORD encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them.
34:8 O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.
34:9 O fear the LORD, ye his saints: for there is no want to them that fear him.
34:10 The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not want any good thing.
34:11 Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will teach you the fear of the LORD.
34:12 What man is he that desireth life, and loveth many days, that he may see good?
34:13 Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile.
34:14 Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.
34:15 The eyes of the LORD are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry.
34:16 The face of the LORD is against them that do evil, to cut off the remembrance of them from the earth.
34:17 The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles.
34:18 The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.
34:19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all.
34:20 He keepeth all his bones: not one of them is broken.
34:21 Evil shall slay the wicked: and they that hate the righteous shall be desolate.
34:22 The LORD redeemeth the soul of his servants: and none of them that trust in him shall be desolate.

HIS EYE IS ON THE SPARROW

Mahalia Jackson - His Eye Is On The Sparrow

His Eye is on the Sparrow - Bryan Wilson


Thanks Musiqlova for the link to this version of song by Bryan Wilson

NO MORE NEW BIRTH CHURCH SUNDAY SERVICE LIVE ON STREAMINGFAITH.COM FOR METRO ATLANTA


I paid a visit to streamingfaith.com to watch the live broadcast of New Birth Baptist Church only to learn that Bishop Long has discontinued airing the live broadcast of his services for those of us living in the metro Altanta area. He said that he has learned that certain of New Birth members were watching the service over the internet instead of actually attending the service.

Accordingly, he wants those of us living in the metro Atlanta area to personally come to the church if we want to hear him preach live on Sunday mornings.

Selah.

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